Looking For The Silver Lining: An Optimist’s Quest!

RainbowHey everyone, I hope all is going well with y’all :) I’m enjoying a beautiful, sunny day hanging out at home, drinking tea and listening to a CD of some great Jazz Guitar courtesy of Brandon Bernstein that I will soon be reviewing for my Jazz Guitar site. Suffice it to say, life is good!

That being said, my simple life is not all double rainbows and chocolate drizzle! Like most things in life, there’s the good and the not-so-good and finding a balance is sometimes difficult to do so. Thankfully, I am a very positive thinker and a die-hard optimist, and I truly like to see the silver lining in the not-so-good aspects of my life.

So, what are those not-so-good aspects in my life you ask? Well, I’ll tell ya…

  • I am somewhat bald
  • I am about fifty pounds overweight
  • I am, more often than not, broke
  • I don’t hustle for work

I’m sure there’s more, but I don’t wanna come off as a total loser :) Just kidding!!

Now, when I look at the above list, I think to myself, “So!? This is the reality of many North Americans! How can you find silver linings in these issues?”

Ah! That IS the question, and here’s the answer.

I am somewhat bald: The silver lining in this is that I save money on hair cuts! My ex-girl friend cuts my hair, usually every four months or so for $10.00. When I had lots of hair back in the day, I would get a trim about once a month at the cost of $25.00 each visit!! This came out to about $300.00 a year. Now, I spend between $30.00 and $40.00 a year total, which is a huge saving!

I also save money on shampoo because one regular size bottle lasts a long, long time! And I do not need to buy conditioner because there’s very little to condition :)

I am about fifty pounds overweight: This one is a little tougher to find the silver lining, but it is there. For one thing, there’s more of me to love :) Also, as I am currently working on shedding those extra fifty or so pounds – a post on that coming soon – I get to do a lot of walking, which gets me out in the sun. And as I walk around my neighborhood, I get to listen to my MP3 player and get caught up in the various pod-casts I like to listen to. Another silver lining is that I am focused now on eating better food choices which gets me to try healthier food options that I would not have considered otherwise.

I am, more often than not, broke: The silver lining in this, at least for me, is that I don’t have money to spend on frivolous items that I might indulge in otherwise. During my 9 to 5 days, I used to be a big magazine “junkie”, spending about $50.00 or more a month. That’s $600.00 or more a year!!!! These days I read those magazines online or take them out from the library.

I’m also very selective on where my money goes these days, which is an important part of living a simple lifestyle. It’s fine to spend money if need be, as long as you’re conscious of what your money is being spent on. I honestly don’t miss those impulse buys while waiting in line at the grocery store or magazine shop.

And for the record, I do have enough money to pay my rent, bills and food each month. It’s the discretionary funds, or lack thereof, that I am referring to.

I don’t hustle for work: The silver lining in this, is that I have more free time to spend on myself to write blog posts, or play guitar, or go out to tea with a friend in the early afternoon while everyone else is working.

Now, you may be thinking, “yeah…but if you hustled more, you wouldn’t be broke!”

While this may be true, I value my time way more than the few bucks – relatively speaking – that I would get hustling freelance gigs. That’s not to say that I don’t look for work, I just take my time with searching. I’ve been fortunate that the majority of my work/ income has been word of mouth referrals which I gladly accept :) Such word of mouth referrals always seem to come at the most opportune times and so I find myself not having to hustle for jobs. If however, such referrals dry up, then I’ll reconsider the hustle!

Now, if you are not already aware, the above “issues” and silver linings are purely my own. Some folk might feel way different about these issues than I do and their reality might be totally different than mine, so I am not in any way making light of these situations in anyone else’s life but my own.

I realize that there are some serious life troubles that may not seem to have any silver linings. But I truly believe that if you can look hard enough and can be at least somewhat optimistic/positive, you may see one or two where you might not have seen any before.

And while seeing the silver lining in a not-so-good situation might not correct the issue, it does allow you to hopefully accept the issue with less dread, which may help you feel a little more in control of a bad situation.

So…what, if any, are your silver linings?

Are there any “hardships” in your life that you make light of to keep from getting depressed?

Are you more of an optimist or pessimist?

I’d really love to read your thoughts on the topic so please feel free to add a comment below.

Take care and all the best.

Lyle

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