Hey all. I hope you’re enjoying the week and that all is going well with you and yours.
Back in November 2013, I wrote a post titled 53 Turning 13 where the basic premise was that, while I am for all intents and purposes, a 54 year old adult, there’s still a large part of my personality and character that behaves like a 13 year old!
This is not to say that I am immature – although some of my ex-girlfriends might have a different opinion – rather, while I take care of what I need to as an adult – you know, bills, rent, career obligations, and hygiene – I also still enjoy many of the youthful pursuits I did as an adolescent. Batman action figures – I’m a BIG Batman fan – comic books, James Bond films, 70′s hard rock music, Superhero movies, to name but a few, still do it for me big time and I get as excited about such things as when I was 13.
So why am I telling you all this?
Well, last night me and a friend took in the new Avengers movie “The Age of Ultron”. It was – as one might expect – a fantastic display of explosions, destruction, blurred lines between what’s right and what can go terribly wrong, egoistic tension and of course, heroism alongside altruistic action…and I loved it!!
While looking around at the audience, I couldn’t help but notice that my friend and I were probably the only two dudes in the cinema who were in their fifties. I began to wonder if those sitting around us thought that we might be a tad “old” for a movie like this and to be honest, I wasn’t caring one way or the other.
Truth be told, The Avengers, along with the majority of superhero movies that have come out within the past twenty-five or so years are geared more to the baby boomer set than they are to children. Hollywood knows where the money comes from and understands that there is – to varying degrees – a nostalgic adolescent in all of us who just wants to get out every now and then and have some innocent fun like we did when we were in our tweens and teens!
It may not come as much of a surprise, but the notion that as adults we should put away all childish things has never really sat quite right for me. I have never felt that giving up the things that gave me joy as a child would make me a “better” adult. In fact, I strongly think that keeping your inner child alive and well is paramount for living a healthy, happy and balanced life. This, I feel, is especially true as we get older. Which is why I don’t suppress my adolescent tendencies, as they help to keep me “young” in spirit and thought. It also helps me to keep an open mind and live a life that is non-judgmental towards others. This is not to say that I’m Mr. Perfect, but I’m definitely not going to turn into an old curmudgeon any time soon!
This also doesn’t mean that I think you should run down to the nearest Toys R Us to buy out all the toys you can grab or watch all the Marvel movies you can find on NetFlix…unless you truly have a desire to do so.
What would be nice though is to every now and then, watch, listen or read something you liked as a kid, no matter how “un-adult” it seems now. After all, this is who you once were, and yes, tastes do change over the years, but sometimes those changes are not truly voluntary! Sometimes we grow up a little too quickly for our own good. Hence the mid-life crisis!
Recently, another friend of me mine – who is a few years younger than I – whispered to me at a dinner party that she would love to see a circus again like she did when she was a young girl, but that she would feel weird doing so since she’s now approaching her fiftieth year. I of course told her that she should most definitely go when – and if – a circus ever hits town again.
“But who would I go with” she asked. “I doubt any of my friends would want to go!”
“You could always go by yourself” I replied, but immediately got the feeling that she was not too excited by my suggestion. The topic then quickly changed and that was that!
I felt kind of sad for her and wondered why she wouldn’t consider going alone if she truly wanted to go. Well, to make a long story short, I told her later that evening that I would go with her if ever a circus sets up stakes in our neck of the woods. She thanked me and we agreed to do it if the occasion arose, which would be cool since I haven’t been to the circus since I was around 6 or so.
So…the take away in all of this is to go out there and have fun! Revisit those youthful days. Take your wife, husband or life partner to the circus. Make a “play-date” to go to the movies and then Dairy Queen for a banana split or Root Beer Float (when did you last enjoy a banana split or a float?)! Hang out with a friend for an afternoon while listening to the music you both did when you were younger…better yet, take them to a “fav band back in the day” concert – if you can afford it of course!. Or take yourself to a comic-book store and get caught up on the stories you’ve missed these last 40 years – within reason of course…or not! Join your kids in a spontaneous game of hide and seek or go to the local park and play Frisbee.
If you really feel the need to shed some of the mental and emotional years of your life to feel lighter, bring the kid in you, out. You just may be surprised at how well you both can exist together alongside the mortgage, car payments, bill payments, retirement funds, career advancements, partners, and even your own children. In fact, when you start to embarrass your children, you know your inner child is truly alive and well!
Take care all and thanks for being here
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