The Need For Balance!!

Hey all. I hope you’re all doing well and that your summer is proving to be all that you expected :)

Mine is going well albeit a tad busier than I would like! As mentioned in my previous post, my time management skills need to be worked on a little, which I am doing…hence this post!

When I unknowingly started down the path of voluntary simplicity oh so many years ago, it was from a point in my life – the early 90’s – that was overrun by 9 to 5 jobs, societal expectations, relationship demands and my own inner pressure to feel fulfilled and happy (if interested, you can read my journey here).

Cut to roughly thirty years later and I’m in a way better place than back in the day…and grateful for the changes I have made over the years. I still have to work to pay the rent and bills, I still have relationship demands, and I’m still looking for fulfillment and happiness. The difference now though, is that I do so on my own terms!! I’ve replaced the above “issues” with what works best for my personality and I am no longer trying to fit into a life that is not my own design.

So now you might be thinking, “Yay Lyle, good for you and all that. Your life is much simpler and yada, yada, yada!” Well, truth be told, it’s not…hence the subject title of this post!

The beauty of living a simple life – at least in my understanding of how simplicity works – is that one’s life is taken back from the demands and expectations of others (social, cultural and personal) allowing us to craft a new existence, one that is based on how we truly want to live, with as much intention and reflection as possible. Easier said than done, but definitely possible!

The “problem” – at least for me – is that I take on too much at times, not because I need to, but because I want to and – quite frankly –  because I can.

As you have might have noticed, my posting schedule seems to have been thrown out the window, as they have been more than sporadic as of late. This is because I have recently – within the past few months – devoted most of my time to selling on eBay in order to make some extra cash. I have been studying, thrifting and selling to the detriment of most things I was doing prior to my getting to know eBay. This seems to be my usual pattern as I embark on something new that has somewhat of a learning curve. Thankfully, I seem to now have a grasp over what I am doing!

I say “thankfully” because while I am enjoying selling on eBay, I wasn’t enjoying the fact that I left everything else fall by the wayside as I was learning. In fact, I started to feel quite guilty actually and that started to weigh in heavily on my eBay enjoyment along with my other life choices such as guitar playing, blogging and just plain old chilling out. For me, this was the antithesis of what simple living should be all about - at least in my life!

So, a few days ago I had a “stern” talk with myself and basically came to the conclusion that I needed to find a healthy balance between all the things I love to do. One way I’m attempting to do this, is to break down the day into smaller time chunks and devote those chunks to one activity at a time.

For example, I’ll take the hours of one to three in the afternoon and use them to just blog here and at my Jazz Guitar Life site. Then three to five will be devoted to listing items on eBay. In the evenings when I’m not teaching or working at the comedy club, I’ll devote those hours to music listening, catching up on my fav blogs and/or catching up on a bunch of TV shows I love, but have not watched in a long while. And while I realize that many may think that this is not a productive use of my time, it is my way of unwinding down the day so that I don’t end up going to bed with a gazillion things floating around inside my head.

The mornings – from when I wake up to about 12 - I claim for myself as I work on my guitar playing, drink tea, reflect on my ongoing recording project, enjoy a breakfast out by myself or with my cousin and/or read a book at a local cafe across from my place.

I’ve been doing this type of scheduling for the past few days and so far it has proven to be quite effective – which is why I am finding the time to write this post :) As the days and weeks go by, I should settle into a nicely balanced routine where all my interests are catered to.

As I wind down this post, the irony in all of this doesn’t escape me as it seems that I am doing way too much! As a simple lifestyle enthusiast, I should be paring things down to one or two activities/interests and practicing what I “preach”! While there may be some truth to this, it is BECAUSE I live a simple life that I can enjoy a variety of interests and activities, as the majority of the day is my own to do with what I will thanks to the choices I made years ago.

Now I know that some may not be as fortunate as I and that each life situation is different, but if you truly value doing what you love, you will eventually figure out how to successfully balance your own needs alongside those other areas of your life that might be less than desirable. And remember, most – if not all – things are temporary and do change sooner or later…hopefully for the better! It’s up to you and you alone :)

Have you found a healthy balance in your life and if so, how did you do it?

Are you looking for balance?

Take care and all the best.

As usual, I’d love to read your thoughts on this topic so please, keep the conversation flowing by adding a comment below.

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Take care and all the best.


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