Valentine’s Day Is Also For SAD People Like Me :)

I originally wrote this post this time last year and since nothing has really changed, I figured I would repost it again for those who may have missed it the first time around :)

So…here ya go…


Hey everyone. I hope you are all enjoying your week.

As I venture through the various blogs I read daily, I have noticed an obvious proliferation of posts dedicated to Valentine’s Day…and understandably so as this Friday is “Love Day”.

BUT…did you know that Valentine’s day – or sometimes the day before or the day after – is also Single Awareness Day or SAD (which it isn’t at all)! THIS is the day I celebrate!!! :)

If you’ve read my earlier posts, you’ll know that I am a confirmed bachelor and have been happily single for the past seventeen years! During that time, I have celebrated Single Awareness Day in my own way by just doing what I feel like doing at that particular moment in time. No pressure, no expectations, and certainly no expensive bouquet of last minute thoughts.

Now, I’m not saying that celebrating this day is a bad thing necessarily, but there’s a good reason why Valentine’s Day brings in billions of dollars of business on that one day alone (check below for some sobering stats). It’s also no surprise that restaurants – some, not all – bring out the “special menus” that “offer” the more expensive dishes, wines and spirits, compared to their usual everyday menu.

Flowers are, all of a sudden, more expensive, while card shops and gourmet chocolate stores make a killing from last minute purchases. And all because “there will be hell to pay” if one forgets or decides not to make a big deal out of the day.

You probably already have an idea of my position on this, but for the record, let me state that the idea behind Valentine’s Day should be a year round consideration. Instead of professing your love for someone by spending a lot of money on items (no matter how shiny) or expensive outings, consider doing small showings of love throughout the year. A tender hug here, a foot massage there, a romantic home cooked dinner WITH the kids …you know what I’m trying to say. Every day obviously doesn’t have to be super special, but there should be some days where the love is deeper than it was the day before.

If however, you really want to celebrate THE day, then make it simple and light. Make it about you both, and not about where you bought the flowers, or where you’re going out for dinner. Why not revisit your first date spot, or simply spend the evening hand in hand walking through town or spend an hour or two making out like teenagers in the back row of a repertoire cinema :P Whatever you decide to do, just make it about you both, without the pretentious expectations and guilt that VD commerce will try and sway you both with! Of course, both parties will have to be on board to avoid any awkward moments and/or the dog house!

Now, if you are single like I am, and looking to do something special, have a self-date night or call up some single friends and have a SAD party at home. A close friend and I used to get together at her place for a “F**K Valentine’s Day” home cooked dinner which we would do every year of our friendship until she found her true love.

This reminds me, if you are a couple, and have a few close single friends, why not invite them to join you both for dinner? Or maybe you both could host a “we love our friends” party and invite both couples and singles. After all, everyone should enjoy the love, not just couples. I mean really…why are there no Friend Day celebrations!!?? We’re just as important – maybe more so at times – than one’s life partner!! Just a thought :)

As for me, I’ll be spending Valentine’s Day doing a bit of guitar teaching before heading off to the Comedy Nest to work the door.  But you can be sure that I’ll treat myself to a delicious breakfast in the morning, followed by a day of doing nothing but things I love to do. Along the way, I’ll think of those who are single like me and hope that they are enjoying the day just as much as I will be. After all, how can you fully love someone without first fully loving yourself? It’s simple…you can’t!!

So…what are your plans for Valentine’s Day?

Do you find that I am being too much of a party-pooper when it comes to my not wanting people to fall for the commercialization of Valentine ’s Day?

As usual, I’d love to read your thoughts on this topic so please, keep the conversation flowing by adding a comment below.

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Take care and all the best.


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Valentine’s Day Statistics Data
Average annual Valentine’s Day spending $13.19 Billion
Number of Valentine’s Day cards exchanged annually 180 Million
Average number of roses produced for Valentine’s Day 196 million
Percent of Valentine’s Day cards bought by women 85%
Percent of flowers bought by men 73%
Percent of women who send themselves flowers on Valentine’s Day 14%
Amount the average consumer spends on Valentine’s Day $116.21
Percent of consumers who celebrate Valentine’s Day 61.8 %
Percent of women who would end their relationship if they didn’t get something for Valentines day. 53 %
Average number of children conceived on Valentine’s day 11,000


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