You’re Not The Boss Of Me!!

folded-armsHey everyone. I hope you’re all doing well and enjoying the good life wherever you are :)

After battling the flu for the past three weeks I can happily say that I am back at 100% and feeling energized!!

Throughout that three week period I had lots and lots of time to sleep and watch TV…which is what I do when I’m sick. And to be honest, I was extremely grateful that I was in a position where I COULD sleep and watch a helluva lot of TV :)   In my old nine-to-five days, I’d be lucky if I was able to get TWO days off, regardless if the company offered sick days or not.

Now-a-days I can’t even imagine being sick and having to go to a job where there’s a good chance that my work would actually suffer, not to mention the possibility of infecting my co-workers. Yet every day, tons of sick folk are expected to make their way to an office, warehouse, factory, academic institution, hospital or fast food chain – to name but a few – to put in eight or more miserable hours for fear that they might possibly lose their job or be penalized in some way if they take more than a couple of days off. And while this scenario may or may not be the case, it is the possibility that such an occurrence could take place that rubs me the wrong way! This may sound a little harsh, but in my mind, that’s extortion…pure and simple…even if it does help pay the rent!

Since being laid-off from my last nine-to-five job back in 1982, I’ve strived to live a life that is void of such expectation. To live a life that is determined by my actions and my actions alone! And this attitude doesn’t just apply to working, it also applies to my health and well-being, my happiness and my overall contentment in life.

Having said that, let me clarify a few things. I realize that the society that I live in is very much a “you do this for me and I’ll do that for you” culture, and personally I’m fine with that. So long as it’s my choice!! If I’m sick and working a job, and I can’t take as many days off as I need to get better because they expect me to be in when THEY want…then no thank you!! I’ll find my own way of making my own money thank you very much! Which is exactly what I have done.

Now some may argue that “yeah…ok…so you’re self employed and you can work when you want to…but I’m making more money than you!” While this may be true, I have some thing they don’t have…time! I truly value my time much more than I value money. I understand that I need to work to pay my rent, my bills and to live. But I don’t need to work on such a grand scale that I give up all my time working for somebody else. Been there! Done that! Got the T-shirt!

When I began following a simpler lifestyle, I became more aware of what it took for me to be truly content. And you know what? It didn’t take that much at all! A decent place to live, a way to pay the bills that wasn’t contrary to how I wanted to live, close proximity to good friends, access to public transportation, and a little extra cash to blow now and then on luxuries like brunch every Sunday and the odd movie out. And even with just those simple needs and wants, I still manage to live with so much more than many people around the world could ever hope – or dare -  to enjoy.

Now, sometimes I take my life for granted and even though I don’t mean to, it happens from time to time. It’s when I’m sick however, or deeply aware that I am able to live my life with more freedom than most people I know…it’s then that I realize how fortunate I truly am.

Mind you, I have put work into getting to this point in my life and it hasn’t always been easy as there’s been plenty of self-doubt in the past. Thankfully though, I persevered and kept on living my life the way I wanted, and it’s worked out…for me! Hopefully the choices you have made in your life have worked out for you. If not, it’s really not too late :)

End of rant!!

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic so please keep the conversation going in the comments section below. It is
greatly appreciated…as are you!! :)

Take care and all the best.


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29 thoughts on “You’re Not The Boss Of Me!!

  1. Oh admittedly there were choices I’ve made that I regret but those were in the past. That’s what’s learning is all about, I believe. At least now, having made a choice to work home-based and able to spend more time with my kids, I am a loooot happier and more at peace. The money is not the same as it was when I was part of management for some company but trust me when I say, I am HAPPIER!

    • Hey Jen and thanks for dropping by :)

      Your comment is spot-on! Choices are choices, and we only know if we made a good choice or bad choice after the fact and that’s cool, ’cause as you state “that’s what’s learning is all about”!

      It sounds like you’ve made the best choice…which is being able to spend more time with your children. AND you’re still making money, still keeping a roof over their heads and food in the tummy’s…which is all anyone can ask for. The bonus is…you are happier than when you were making more money…and believe me, that’s a true gift :)

      Take care Jen and my best to all.


  2. Hi Lyle! I was nodding my head throughout reading this post. I remember my last ‘day job’ where I took 2 days off work per year if at all. I went in when I was so ill several times for fear of getting behind in my work more than anything. I did feel guilty for the possibility of passing my illnesses onto others but everybody felt the same way and dragged themselves in when they too were ill. What a vicious circle because no-one is productive when they’re not feeling their best so work is done to a lesser quality anyway.

    I’m not entirely free these days – I’m self employed so if I don’t work I don’t get paid. That being said, working from home suits me much better and I can plan days off or take less work on if I need to. Which is what I’m doing now actually. I’m earning less and I’m ok with that! Great post and thanks for the insight. :)

    • Hey Hayley and great to see you again :)

      An office full of ill workers doesn’t sound like a very productive enterprise!

      As for being self-employed…yes…that still means you have to work…but at least, as you say, you’re in control of when and how long. And what you lose in terms of compensation, you gain in time, which to me, is the greater of the two. You can always make more money, but you can’t make more time than there already is. Or something like that anyway…:)

      Thanks for the kind words Hayley and take care. My best to all.


  3. Oh man, do I hear you! I am SOOOO happy to be out of that rat race! Every time someone would come in hacking and spewing their germs all over the place, I used to get so angry. I was sick SIX TIMES last winter (not the one just “over”, the one before)… Guess what? Since having parted ways with the ole 7-4, last August, haven’t been sick once!

    No one is productive when they can’t breathe, are full of snot and coughing their lungs out. As I got older and wiser, I took the time needed (though I’m sure I could have taken more) because it does shorten the time you are sick if you can rest. I guess I was also in a “I don’t give a rat’s behind if I get canned for it….that helps!

    So happy to hear you are back to your 100%!

    • Hey Dale and thanks for dropping by :)

      You said it all in your comment Dale. And your “not giving a rat’s behind” is the KEY for living a happier life indeed! Thanks for that :)

      Take care and my best to all.


  4. Yes! Yes! Yes! I left too, and I’ve never been happier. I make less, I buy less, I spend less, and I have so much more – time, love, health, etc.

    I loved this rant, Lyle. Rant away!

    • Hi Tammy and so wonderful to see you here again :) I have missed you and CJ!!!

      Thanks so much for the kind words Tammy!! It goes without saying that in our lives less is definitely more…less stress, less stuff, less spending turns into more time, more space and more happiness! Ya gotta love simple living :)

      Take care and my best to you both.


  5. Hi Lyle. Glad to hear you are feeling back to normal. And YES I so agree with you that time is one of the most precious things any of us have. To sell ourselves so short to make a few bucks is sad. Unfortunately it did take me a few years to figure that out…but now that I have there is absolutely no going back. Thom and I call ourselves “un-employable.” Not unemployed mind you, but un-employable because we are not willing to work the kinds of jobs and hours that most people do without a thought. We life well, but not extravagantly, and our time is mostly our own. Such RICHNESS! There is another way and you offer a great example of that. Thanks! ~Kathy

    • Hi Kathy and thanks for dropping by :)

      I love that term “un-employable”. I think I’ll adopt it to describe myself as well!!

      As always, I’m glad we are on the same page:)

      Take care and my best to all.


  6. Gosh Lyle, talk about perfect timing. I’ve been feeling this way more and more recently and not sure what to do. Thanks to you, I now have a clearer idea. I am grateful. Take care.


    • Hi Sharon and thanks for dropping by :)

      Thank you so very much for your kind words and I hope things work out the way you want them to!

      Take care and all the best.


    • Hey Melissa and thanks for dropping by :)

      Thanks also for the comment and I truly appreciate your doing so!!

      Take care and all the best.


  7. Hi Lyle. I just wanted to say that I really loved this post of yours and the kid pictured in the post was a perfect touch :) Later!


    • Hey Brad and thanks for dropping by :)

      Thanks for your kind words and yeah, I felt the kid in the picture really said it all with his body language! He really spoke to me with that pose!

      Take care and all the best.


  8. Thank you for this post. I remember feeling somewhat depressed in college ( 14 years ago now) thinking about gaining a degree just to join the rat race and work a full time job with little flexibility. I felt that’s what everybody did and that’s what I should do too. I went on to finish my degree, but after working full-time for a few years and not being happy, I have, together with my husband, carved out a slower, simpler, life. It’s blog communities like these that help individuals realize that it’s ok to desire something different than the norm! I homeschool my two kids and use my degree in nutrition as a life skill-cooking healthy meals for my family, involving my kids in meal planning and food preparation. This used to sound lame to me when I would say it out loud to others and realize that I just stay at home. But I have embraced it! This is the life I have always desired! I would not trade it for a life of higher incomes and respect from a career in the medical field. I do miss helping people lead healthier lives on a daily basis at a full time job. But I can still do that for friends and family, and serve others in all kinds of ways in my spare time. Time I would not otherwise have if employed full-time. Thank you for your thoughts on this subject, it is very inspiring!

    • Hi Katy and thanks so much for dropping by :)

      Thank you as well for the heartfelt comment! I love that you followed your heart regardless of what others expected from you. You embraced the life you wanted for you and your family, and I have no doubt that you are all better off for it!!

      As for your missing the opportunity to help people, I have three words for you: START A BLOG :)

      Thanks again Katy for your words and believe me, YOU are the one who is inspiring!

      Take care, don’t be a stranger and all the best.


  9. Oh man, does this ever resonate with me. I am still trapped in a 9 to 5 job that takes a lot more of my time than it should. I’m hoping to pull the plug on it come the summer time and your words have spurred me on even more so. Thank you for the push.

    • Hi Allison and thanks for dropping by :)

      I wish you all the best in your coming freedom. While I may have provided the push, it’s you who has to take the leap…which is not an easy thing to do.

      That being said, one of my favorite quotes is “jump off the cliff and grow wings on the way down!” The longer you wait, the harder it gets to make that change. And seriously, who wants to work during the summer anyway!? :)

      Take care and all the best.


  10. I’m jealous, Lyle :)

    I don’t have much to complain about my job, especially since they give me so much flexibility and I have great co-workers. Still, it’s those sick days where I wish I had even more flexibility. I actually just had the stomach flu and yeah, felt compelled to come in even when I probably shouldn’t have.

    On the other hand, I think, if I were with the kids all day and I did get sick, then I’m screwed haha. I wouldn’t have anywhere to put them! Although I guess in that case I would hire a babysitter just so I could pass out in my room :)

    So glad you’re feeling better, Lyle!

    • Hey Nina and thanks for dropping by :)

      I guess there really is no sick days off when you’re a mom!!

      Sorry to hear about your stomach flu…those are the worse! Hope you are feeling better Nina!

      Take care and thanks for the kind words. My best to all.


    • Hey Trent and thanks for dropping by :)

      Thanks as well for the kind words and I’ll keep doing what I can!

      Take care and all the best.


    • Hey Laurie and thanks for dropping by :)

      Thanks for the kind words and I have no doubt that Rick will get there in time!!!

      Take care and my best to all.


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